JustMehas been talking about boundaries lately.
What she talks about strikes so close to the bone. I want to stick my fingers in my ears and scrunch my eyes tightly shut and yell, “la-la-la-la – I can’t hear you!”
The problem is, I hear all too well.
I hear my personal boundaries crashing all around me.
And, I have to admit that often, I am the one who is leading the charge to dismantle them.
So I ask myself why and, as if by magic, my friend Wanda emails me, providing me with both the answer and the inspiration.
Bitchology
When I stand up for
myself and my beliefs,
they call me a
bitch.
When I stand up for
those I love,
they call me a
bitch.
When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts
or do things my own way, they call me a
bitch.
Being a bitch
means I won't
compromise what's
in my heart.
It means I live my life MY way.
It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.
When I refuse to
tolerate injustice and
speak against it, I am
defined as a
bitch.
The same thing happens when I take time for
myself instead of being everyone's maid, or when I
act a little selfish.
It means I have the courage and strength to allow
myself to be who I truly am and won't become
anyone else's idea of what they think I 'should'
be.
I am outspoken,
opinionated and determined. I want what I want and
there is nothing wrong with that!
So try to stomp on me,
try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every
ounce of beauty I hold within me.
You won't succeed.
And if that makes me a bitch,
so be it.
I embrace the title and
am proud to bear it.
B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself
B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman
B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle anything
Woo hoo!
Just the kick in the rear I needed.
I'm reclaiming my boundaries and re-introducing them to the people in my life.
And if they want to tell me I’m being bitchy, they certainly have that right. And I have the right to be a Bitch In Training Clearly Hearing herself and striving to be a Beacon of intelligence Totally Centered and Honoring of herself.
What kind of bitch will you be?
12 comments:
I like this one: "Beacon of Intelligence Totally Centered and Honoring of herself."
Oh, the process. Boundaries do get easier...when practiced. And you know--menopause really helps. Menopausal women do not suffer fools gladly--or any other way for that matter.
PS - I love that shot!
Okay. LOVE this!!!!! I'll be a BITCH with you!!! Promise!!! No accidents that Wanda sent that when she did, that was when you were ready to receive it!
I'll be a Boundary Initiating Teacher of Clarity and Healing!
L.O.V.E. this!!! Now I will contemplate all day exactly what my personal BITCH means. Thank You for this perspective.
Love.
: )
Beautiful post..!
Just discovered your blog - love it -
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Just the post I needed to see! I have been accused lately, & have felt indignant. I too, am entitled to BE!
This is the kind I'm going for:
Being of Inner Total Calm is Here
nice! didn't realize that i'm one too! hihi... first time for me to see myself that way :o)
saw u in meggie's blog... hope to exchange links with if it's ok. do visit my blog and hoping u can share ur thoughts. would be glad to hear what a fellow bitch has to say...:-)
http://any-some-every-thing.blogspot.com/
thanks!
Would love to be waking up in Portland tomorrow. . . or anytime soon. And definitely will be waking up a BITCH. Finally at 43 reclaiming what I knew and owned at 17--bitchology. Thanks for the poem.
This is great!!! I have always had troubles with boundaries because I didn't believe I had the right to them. I am going to copy this poem and hang it over my desk as a reminder.
Thank you!! Bitches of the world, unite.
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